Paying Deposits for Time/Session

I have noticed, as most Pro-Dommes have that there is a reticent population of clients that do not believe in paying deposits. They have many reasons why they don't want to do it which usually indicate to the Domme that the communication exchange was a time suck. The client finds out information and attempts scheduling (all of which on our side involve planning and work) just to say that in the end they don't trust that the Domme is the real deal. This is a major point of frustration. Dommes that are professional with good reputations will expect a deposit. If they ask you for a deposit or references, you need to provide one or both of these things. This is to ensure the trust and safety of your interaction. If you (as a potential client) are worried that a Domme wants a deposit simply to take your money from you, know that the dynamic you are entering into, you are putting her in a position of power, you will be following her rules and if you cannot comply with her rules from the get-go, you will not have a good experience or any experience at all, instead wanking your flesh extension in between your legs. (Not as good a time!) I cannot speak for other Dommes but I would speculate that if they do not specify that a certain deposit is required, this leaves you (as the potential client) some flexibility on how you give that deposit, both in type and amount. I highly prefer deposits but I do not specify an amount or type until it is discussed because I want to allow for that flexibility. It is not My initial aim to take all your money from you, (unless you are into that kind of thing, then I will enjoy our further fetish play. see: Financial Domination). My aim is to develop trust and create a platform in which to build our interaction. If you found a Woman you desire and want to spend more time with Her, the social custom is to typically take her out for a drink or two to learn if you want to pursue something further and she returns said interest. How much does that cost you? Ten, $20? If you think nothing of making that investment on a strange Woman, why would making that same investment be something you are unwilling to give a professional Dominatrix? Clearly its because you have no intention of following through. Dommes want to spend time and have sessions with people who have a genuine interest in them. It is disrespectful to contact a Domme when you do not have the mental/emotional/fiscal ability to follow through in meeting Her. If you are not ready to make that step then admire Her from afar until you are ready. Read, appreciate Her with more then your chiclet in hand. Also important to note is there are tons of different ways to give a deposit to a Domme; multiple platforms to send cash or credit and a great many more websites in which you can send a gift card. If a Domme requires a certain deposit amount but you can spare only small increments at a time, express that to the Domme and see if she is willing to put small amounts towards a deposit and/or session then over time you will develop trust with your kink provider and also be meeting Her requirements within your abilities. Dominas are not unreasonable people, but jack-asses sorely press our patience and thus the need to have very firm boundaries about how you interact with us. Let's have a deposit scenario: you-latex fetish, want to have a session with Me. As an alternative to sending Me cash, you can give Me an etsy gift card. I have a collection of unique pieces I want to build My latex wardrobe. If your deposit (in one go or slowly over time) buys one of those pieces, then I will be happy to have something I want and we will be able to enjoy said latex together in our session. I will appreciate the thoughtfulness. (Admire latex I desire here: http://etsy.me/2xnv0iI) It's not hard and we aren't all trying to rob you. If you are unwilling to pay deposits, you might want to have a hard look at yourself and why you don't trust others or your inability to engage in intimate interactions with others.