Paying Deposits for Time/Session

I have noticed, as most Pro-Dommes have that there is a reticent population of clients that do not believe in paying deposits. They have many reasons why they don't want to do it which usually indicate to the Domme that the communication exchange was a time suck. The client finds out information and attempts scheduling (all of which on our side involve planning and work) just to say that in the end they don't trust that the Domme is the real deal. This is a major point of frustration. Dommes that are professional with good reputations will expect a deposit. If they ask you for a deposit or references, you need to provide one or both of these things. This is to ensure the trust and safety of your interaction. If you (as a potential client) are worried that a Domme wants a deposit simply to take your money from you, know that the dynamic you are entering into, you are putting her in a position of power, you will be following her rules and if you cannot comply with her rules from the get-go, you will not have a good experience or any experience at all, instead wanking your flesh extension in between your legs. (Not as good a time!) I cannot speak for other Dommes but I would speculate that if they do not specify that a certain deposit is required, this leaves you (as the potential client) some flexibility on how you give that deposit, both in type and amount. I highly prefer deposits but I do not specify an amount or type until it is discussed because I want to allow for that flexibility. It is not My initial aim to take all your money from you, (unless you are into that kind of thing, then I will enjoy our further fetish play. see: Financial Domination). My aim is to develop trust and create a platform in which to build our interaction. If you found a Woman you desire and want to spend more time with Her, the social custom is to typically take her out for a drink or two to learn if you want to pursue something further and she returns said interest. How much does that cost you? Ten, $20? If you think nothing of making that investment on a strange Woman, why would making that same investment be something you are unwilling to give a professional Dominatrix? Clearly its because you have no intention of following through. Dommes want to spend time and have sessions with people who have a genuine interest in them. It is disrespectful to contact a Domme when you do not have the mental/emotional/fiscal ability to follow through in meeting Her. If you are not ready to make that step then admire Her from afar until you are ready. Read, appreciate Her with more then your chiclet in hand. Also important to note is there are tons of different ways to give a deposit to a Domme; multiple platforms to send cash or credit and a great many more websites in which you can send a gift card. If a Domme requires a certain deposit amount but you can spare only small increments at a time, express that to the Domme and see if she is willing to put small amounts towards a deposit and/or session then over time you will develop trust with your kink provider and also be meeting Her requirements within your abilities. Dominas are not unreasonable people, but jack-asses sorely press our patience and thus the need to have very firm boundaries about how you interact with us. Let's have a deposit scenario: you-latex fetish, want to have a session with Me. As an alternative to sending Me cash, you can give Me an etsy gift card. I have a collection of unique pieces I want to build My latex wardrobe. If your deposit (in one go or slowly over time) buys one of those pieces, then I will be happy to have something I want and we will be able to enjoy said latex together in our session. I will appreciate the thoughtfulness. (Admire latex I desire here: http://etsy.me/2xnv0iI) It's not hard and we aren't all trying to rob you. If you are unwilling to pay deposits, you might want to have a hard look at yourself and why you don't trust others or your inability to engage in intimate interactions with others.

email thread of death

I have found that I always want to explore more, experience more, be more and this puts Me on the path to pursue the strange, difficult, unheard-of and weird. I often put up Domme ads stating that I want to do the bizarre. I try to not create multiple email exchanges as this is normally the habit of people that do not follow through on sessions, but the odd requests often need more conversation. (-will be My thoughts while reading and composing emails)

fatalist: I'm trying to get with a girl who can be very violent. If you can do it, I need you to suffocate me and go all the way with it, like hanging in a noose or using a plastic bag. Get back to me if you can set this up. I'm willing to give whatever is needed.
-I love being violent, let's do it! I get that he's asking Me to kill him but know that this individual perhaps can benefit from an empathic ear that can guide him towards healing or help or perhaps a session that would accomplish that. Also people that have sessions with Me that engage in suffocation, edge play or murder role play find them to be therapeutic and help them with pain they are feeling. so this is My intention when someone contacts Me about killing them. Also I find it incredibly thrilling and arousing to see the fear on someone's face as I strangle them. 

Domina: To book a session you will need to send a deposit https://cash.me/$DominaTyphoon along with a few days/times you are available. I am quite practiced with suffocation and edge play. 

-truth! show Me you are serious.

fatalist: I am specifically looking for a fatal outcome. I'm not sure it's safe for you to have me make a deposit for that, but if you are willing to do it I can send some.

-there is already a record of our interaction silly, a deposit isn't that much further. he does not understand that contacting a Domme or sex worker to kill you is not something a bright and stable person does. why would anyone think that was an ok thing to do? let's see how far this goes and keep it professional.

Domina: you are not the first person to make this request. I know what I'm doing. Since you won't need it anymore, send a large chunk of what's in your bank account as a deposit. If I find it sufficient I won't ask for more. Then we will set up a place to meet. 

-If he sends it, he's very serious and will tell Me how to handle further interactions with him. If he doesn't, its because the gravity of what he's asking Me might have hit him. 

fatalist: Can we do an in person public meet first? I've been burned so to speak by others who have said they were willing, but wanted money first when we had only spoken online.

-Of course we can meet first, I never have problems meeting people.

Domina: That is quite common. Dominatrix are professionals just as is a doctor or lawyer. If you are hesitant in paying a deposit to one, you should know that the respected and vetted ones will expect it. Make sure they have an online presence if they ask for a deposit. I have a website, blog and twitter for example. If you want to meet first, we can do so. I have consultations with new clients. The fee is much lower but must be paid for in advance, the fee is $50. Its up to you. If you choose to book Me for either a session of finality or an initial consultation, send a deposit to the link I provided in an earlier email and send Me an email with days and times you are available to to set up an appointment. 

-Its important to be professional. I didn't hear back from this gentleman but he is now better informed on how to evaluate and pursue time with a Domme (and now so do you).