Pain by Claudia Typhoon

Pain is a necessary part of life. it changes us, makes us grow. Pain can be crippling and it can be cathartic. the old adage of "life is pain" is more than a little correct. As carefully as we try to live our lives we can not avoid pain, be it physical, emotional, or otherwise. I consider myself and have met others that are connoisseurs of pain. we savor our knowledge of what each type of pain signifies and how it will heal and change a person. we understand the importance of it, embrace it, digest it and are better for it. I am impressively strong due to pain I have experienced and I know that I can take a great deal more. I become eager for it even. I know the growth I receive will make me all the better than those that do not embrace the caress that hurt longs to give you. I find when I allow pain to wrap its arms around me, it cradles me and carries me to where I need to go. when people pull away from pain it grips ever the more tighter. you become used to this restriction and it becomes a part of you, only to squeeze you so tightly that you cannot breath or function until you return its affections.

now, to be less esoteric. in sex and bdsm play, pain is of vital importance. I challenge you to give me a moment in sex where there is no pain, although mostly it is so minimal that perhaps you don't notice it at all. pain during sex is very pleasurable; the rush of endorphin & other delightful hormones through your body. for those that are into corporal play, they understand the elevation, the clarity of mind that this brings. certainly, there is a right and a wrong way to hurt someone. you have to know how the body functions, understand a flush, a texture, a moan to know if the pain you are giving is correct for that person. I am most certainly a sadomasochist and nothing makes me gush more than the exchange of pain. although I don't think the outlet is correct for cutters and others that self-harm, I understand the notion completely.

there was a period of time in which I was going through a lot of emotional pain all at once. I was given no breath, no quarter, no moment to sit still and come to terms with one type of pain when the next infliction would gather its forces and smite me. that's right, I said smite. what got me through this emotionally painful time was a proper and well-given flogging by a beautiful and wonderful Domme friend of mine. the pain dispersed beautifully along my torso, each blow I consented brought my clusterfuck of thought from a loud roar to a warm hum. I could let go and focus on the pain, the evolution of it. the sharp snap of the leather, the dull thud as blows layered on top of each other creating a warmth that has no replacement. afterwards I could be quiet and smile. the calm you feel after an experience like that can not be achieved in any other way.

Working at a dungeon vs. being an independent Domina (part 2) by Claudia Typhoon

the previous post covered the pitfalls and joys of working in a dungeon. now for the same in being an independent Dominatrix.

what I really love is my income and schedule is entirely dictated by my ambition. I can have a lazy day if I want and just eat ice cream, in my jammies, in bed. I can also have a intense day where I am cruel and torment many, many souls a day. I work based upon my mood; and isn't that something that every Dominant person wants? to be the only person that dictates their time. My time is precious and I spend it how I choose. My friends are my family and I only see client and submissives/slaves that stimulate me. I have turned down money and extravagant gifts because I did not care for the individual. if I choose to have an occupation that I love, I will make the income how I choose to and at the pace I choose. I travel constantly, either for fun, work or just to relax. I love that.

sounds great right? now, let me know all the work that goes into that freedom.

now, to be a Domme in NYC know that there are already a lot of very skilled Dommes here. it is a hard place to start. when starting out you will have that shiny new girl finish and if you are without a strong disposition and a true love of kink, you will not last long. you will be naive and clients will try to take advantage as much as possible. they are like children and dogs, they must be reminded and punished appropriately and often. the further along you get, the better you will get at this. some people are naturals at discipline and behaviour modification, others are naturals at humiliation, corporal, and so forth. you will find your niche. (more on finding you niche in another entry.)
also you must build a website, put up ads, answer emails and phone calls, book appointments, invest in equipment and wardrobe, maintain you health and body, learn-grow-get better, figure out your niche, learn how to market yourself, learn law, lingo, boundaries, technical skills, psychology, body language, how to sanitize equipment, and so on and so forth. it looks effortless because those of us that are very good and are passionate about our position will do all this work to maintain it or find the proper slaves to facilitate these things. in addition to the items I've listed above, there is still much more you can do. but because I don't mind spending several hours at a time on these things, I can also enjoy a long outing with a cuckhold sissy. where we go shopping, dress up as ladies and talk about how much we both enjoy cock in the ass and how I deserve it more.

know that you are investing a lot of time and energy towards being a Domme, so you better want it or it better be part of your make-up. the learning curve is steep.