"Queering Claudia Typhoon"-article for loyola university's LGBTQ publication by Claudia Typhoon

I don’t recall a defining moment in time in which I learned the term queer, but I do remember asking the person who self-identified as such what it meant.  They explained how they felt themselves to be and what queer meant to them nonchalantly and it just clicked for me.  I define myself as being attracted to multiple gender and sexual identities.

I find that the more I learn about sexuality, the less I can be defined by my own proclivities. Complex sexual identities are conversations, not short answers.  Most people don’t “have time” to learn and accept the identities of others.  Even worse, condemn it because it doesn't fit into their current sexual context.  I’ve found that the most backlash I’ve received are from individuals that noticeably have sexual interest that come under criticism of others; such as a “hot wife/cuckholdress” or homosexual individuals that tell me that I am selfish for not selecting just one gender to be attracted to, “just pick one already.”  It’s strange to me that those that come from non-linear sexualities would condemn me for having a non-linear sexuality myself.

I identify as queer because it makes the most sense based upon my current schema.  As I evolve and learn more I may identify as something else or choose not to identify at all. I am LGBTQ and an ally.  I have been best friends with Curtis for 15 years and we have grown and supported the evolution of our respective sexualities over the years.  I support the growth and exploration of every individual, as long as it remains safe, sane, and consensual.

The evolution of my sexuality is one of a long conscious of its being.  When I first became attracted to a particular sex I found that the curvaceous women in my parent’s Playboys were what did it for me.  When I started to masturbate I thought of jungle cats mounting me as they would with any mate—teeth, claws, and blood included.  I told my mother I was bisexual when I was 14.  She looked scared and after a pause said that as long as I marry a man and give her grandchildren, it did not matter what I was.  This angered me.  When I was about 15 or 16 I learned of the concept of BDSM. Unbeknownst to be, I had been engaging in BDSM lifestyle activities since I was 5, which I explored mostly with men.  When I moved to NYC I learned the term queer and became a Domina.  I continue to explore my own sexuality and to educate others.  I find that “normal sex” rarely happens; in my own life and of those around me.  The perpetuation of people having puritan sexual relations with each other is a farce, especially with those that are the first to condemn the sexuality of others.