new year, new life, new country, new readers

I haven't written in the past year even though I have continued to actively participate in the BDSM lifestyle in both a professional and personal capacity. In the past year I have moved to Spain from NYC, engaged in sessions abroad and thus launching Myself into the international Domina world, and many delightful personal changes as well. I have visited dungeons located in both Spain (Studio Wanda, located in Madrid and Bilbao) and Germany (Avalon) to start a report with the lovely women who operate them and will visit them for sessions in the future. I have a new Macbook Pro so now I will have the ability to create more content, a new website, and expand My reach by creating profiles on the many lovely Domme sites throughout the world. It is not difficult to travel within Europe and if you desire a session with Me, only send Me a message and a trip potentially can be organised. I have an upcoming trip to Vienna the last week of February for My birthday and will delight in sessions had there. I also have a trip to Ireland at the end of April, with potential of visiting London and playing there afterwards. contact here for more details.

date with a cucky by Claudia Typhoon

I had the most wonderful date with a cuckhold. I was pretending to be his wife, it was our anniversary you see. I met him at the bar and he was kind enough to to bring my rings that I so carelessly "left at home". he also brought a perfume that I said I had wanted. such a good listener my "husband" is. after some chit-chat and drinks we checked into our room at a very lovely hotel near central park. we went back to the bar and contemplated dinner as we plied each other with affection, laughter and sweet nothings. I asked my darling cucky for a twenty to tip the bartender with. I wanted to make sure that when my beautiful bull came to the bar that the drink that he wanted was ready for him without asking and that it be put on my "hubby's" tab. I excitedly talked to my cuck about him, the power of his thrust, the beauty of his form and so on. shortly after my bull arrived, my cucky excused himself to go to the men's room and as soon as he left, I waved my lover over and instantly covered him in kisses. My "husband" came back, confused as to why I was being affectionate with another man. I instructed him to take his wine to the bar and I would order dinner for him and that he would eat it alone at the bar. he resigned himself to this as I dined with my lover and had a splendid time. we laughed, fed each other and kissed as my cucky miserably ate nearby. when my love and I had finished and I wanted his cock inside me, I sent the check to my "husband", telling him to go pick up condoms for me and bring them to the room. meanwhile, my lover and I went upstairs, getting undressed and getting worked up while I waited for my cuckhold to arrive. he brought the magnums I requested to the room, I gave him a kiss with lips that were just on my lover's cock and told him to go home and think of me while I am fucked for hours in a room meant for us two. he smiled and went home. My lover and I spend hours wrapped up in each other and I was incredibly aroused knowing that a kind and generous man wanted nothing more than to be tormented by my being pleased by another man. in the morning after my bull left, I had my "husband" come over to massage me awake and then as I dressed, instructed him to roll about in the bed I had been having sex in all night and smell the sheets. he was humbled by this and groveled at my feet, kissing and thanking me. what a lovely man, cuckhold and servant.

I like to play complex sex games by Claudia Typhoon

the more layers and complexity added during my sex acts, the more satisfied I am. I fantasize about elaborate hours/days even, spent building up desire between my partner and I. I attempt this in my own sex life to mixed results. I don't think that most heterosexual males are with or lucky enough to experience a seductress as myself. I find I need to hold back something or other so that my partner does not become overwhelmed, hence My increased desire for non-traditional partnerships. lucky enough when I am in scene, I am that femme fatale. I can fantasize about further play such as cumming while my bottoms blood drips down my full chest, while in real life I'm making them squirm with pain, or more intense; tormenting them with pleasure and denying, denying, denying. I can spit in their face and singe their cock with my clove. I can strangle them until they are red in the face while I peg them aptly and forcefully. I can bind them in a chair in the corner while I'm having incredible sex with my bull, moaning sweet things to them like: "why can't you be this good", "his cock feels amazing", and be rewarded with my bull pulling out of me to cum on my cuck's hard cock, unbind the cuck's hands and order him to jerk off with my bull's cum. I would love to torment a sub in chastity for days, encourage his arousal and then cage him. repeatedly until the pain in his pelvis has become so intense that he has to bend over and wobble when we walks. as soon as it gets there, bind him on his back, legs spread and flog his hard cock until it becomes limp, thrust my cock in him and every time he gets hard slap his cock until it becomes soft again; repeat this until his orgasm overwhelms him and shoots out of his soft dick. this is just a small portion of what I think about. I want to play out detailed roles and nuances that mix in all sorts of sexuality/sensuality, fetishes/kinks, and power dynamics. I don't think I will be fully attainable to an individual until they can provide me such a thing. I will wait for you, I will teach you.

tips for starting Dominatrices by Claudia Typhoon

now, to be a Domme in NYC know that there are already a lot of very skilled Dommes here. it is a hard place to start. when starting out you will have that shiny new girl finish and if you are without a strong disposition and a true love of kink, you will not last long. you will be naive and clients will try to take advantage as much as possible. they are like children and dogs, they must be reminded and punished appropriately and often. the further along you get, the better you will get at this. some people are naturals at discipline and behaviour modification, others are naturals at humiliation, corporal, and so forth. you will find your niche. (more on finding you niche in another entry.)

I highly suggest starting at a dungeon because it will give you a crash course and you will have more experiences Dommes to learn from and work with. I'm still in touch with Dommes I worked with when I started years ago. Dommes are my favorite kinds of people. (another entry) if you do not feel this is for you, see if a more experienced Domme will take you under his/her wing. choose carefully. this person will have a huge impact on how you develop as a Dominant. it will not be unheard of for you to serve your Dominant mentor as a submissive. Some Dominant personalities could never serve as a submissive, they just don't have the capacity. I suggest it because being able to have that empathy for your slave/sub/bottom is extremely important. I think that understanding that trust and humility as a Dominant can make someone a wonderful and powerful Dominant. the best Dominants I have ever met are sweethearts, teddy bears and generous. they understand power exchange and will not hesitate to put you in your place if needed.

EXPERIMENT! FOR THE SWEET LOVE OF CHRIST EXPERIMENT!

some things will not be for you. some things will definitely not be for you! but you will never truly learn what you love, hate, and excel at if you do not try things. do it slowly and at your pace. choose partners you can trust and communicate well with. I try things I know I will probably hate with an open mind. you never know, the right experience can really be eye opening.

example: I used to hate my feet being touched. it would make me angry; but since I have such beautiful, well-formed feet, I got tons of request for foot worship so I decided to give it a try. now foot worship is one of my favorite things to incorporate into play. it was simply that my feet were incredibly sensitive so for me in seemed invasive. now, its incredible intimate.

and ask questions, tons of questions. be a 2-year old again. why? how? why again. learn the motivation, the sensation of activities.

read! there is now a ton of literature out there. the more you read, the more experience you gain, the more you will be able to establish what is good information and inaccurate information. same goes for porn. I love porn, but some BDSM porn does not accurately display what will be going on in a session with a Domme or you as a Domme. as long as you understand that, watch away!

BDSM by Claudia Typhoon

The more I learn and grow as a kinkster and Domina the more I realize that it has always been an integral part of who I am. BDSM starts simply as Bondage, Domination, Sado-Masochism. I know at least one person reading this is laughing at my use of 'simply' as BDSM is not simple. This acronym is just the start of a varied and complex sexuality and way of being. unfortunately I have met a lot of people within the scene that are rigid and inclusive. I can see their perspective, but I don't agree with it. although there is a beautiful sexual revolution happening all around us, there is still a great deal of judgement towards those that are involved in alternative or non-typical sexualities or what the mainstream perceives as 'normal'. even though gay marriage is being legalized, there are still stigma in being homosexual. so you can imagine that when a woman prefers to fuck men with phallic fruit and veggies while he wears lacy undergarments, she uses him as an ashtray and spits on him, and binds his penis and testicles with a pink lace ribbon in the process as part of their sexual repertoire, a lot of people would consider that odd. I consider it exciting. Realizing and exploring my sexuality has always been very important to me. I was never taught that sexuality is something to be ashamed of, something a very vocal part of our nation has not caught on to. I have been amazed by what I have come to enjoy sexually just because I was open to experimentation. I have also learned things that I don't like, to be sure. so I encourage you all to explore. pick someone you feel comfortable with and pursue a fantasy. start simple, involve food, kiss different parts of the body, delay an orgasm, play with toys. tantric sex is not the only way to be intimate with your partner. just know that everyone is engaging in some kind of kink. can you think of a single person who just has sex in a few key positions? They are the minority. if anyone ever makes fun of you for engaging in or having interest in kink, own it and know that they are probably making fun of you because they don't have the confidence or courage to communicate their sexual desires in the way that you do.

To porn or not to porn by Claudia Typhoon

I think that women should consider two important things in their life: whether or not they want to have children and whether or not they would consider sex work. how a woman feels about these decisions will influence the course in which her life will unfold. Having children or not will determine career paths, what you desire in a partner to start. I really want to have children and I am a sex worker, I'm a Dominatrix. of course I could have children anytime, but I think that children should have a loving supportive environment and until I can give children the stable home they desire, I will not have them. Sex work is an amazing thing when a woman pursues it for her own interest, not through desperation, coercion, abuse or other outside influences. I have learned to value myself and am very confident of my worth. I know that no amount of money will let me compromise myself or my values. I can always make my rent in other ways; I am a Domina because it excites me, satisfies me, stimulates me. I am not a woman that is content with a normal job. this does not mean I have no marketable skills, it fact, I have many. now that I have been a Domina for years the next thing to consider in my BDSM career is whether or not to do porn/erotica. pornography doesn't interest me. the quality of a lot of it is poor and does not depict any sex act accurately. what does interest me is creating something worthwhile. something that stimulates that senses, elaborates upon fantasy. I feel I owe it to my film school education to do so. that is, if I decide to do so. it seems that the trend is that if I Domina wants to make money and expand upon her reputation, that films are the way to go. I have seen a few of the Dommes that I have grown up with do so. I admire their success and a part of me wants the world to see my skill and beauty, and pay for the pleasure.

we shall see.

"Career Call"-article for loyola university's LGBTIQ publication, part 2 by Claudia Typhoon

I assure you its not the most glamorous of occupations at all times.  I spent a lot of time writing emails and scheduling sessions.  I put a ad about once or twice a month.  I have a session at least once a week, as an independent in nyc that means $100-$300 per session.  (Industry standard currently but as a Domme becomes more skilled and gains time and experience, a rate sure to rise.)  Granted I get lots of spare time because of this to plan my Domme career, work on my art projects, socialize and such, but being an Domina is not a guaranteed income and that is hard for a lot of people.  To be a successful Domme you need to have a website, videos, perhaps sell “merchandise,” feature in magazines, model, et cetera.  This is what I am working on currently and will continue to build my reputation.

Being a Domme doesn’t simply mean that I whip people and bind them in chains.  I can’t remember the last time I’ve used if even seen either.  Being, becoming, and maintaining as a Dominatrix comes with the understanding of and climbing a very steep learning curve.  Other Dominas don’t want to give out their knowledge as its hard to come by and they do not want to encourage competition.  Also, being a  Dominant means that you need to be empathetic, able to read body language exceedingly well, and have a at least base knowledge of psychology.  Understanding how the experiences people go through shape them sexually is very important.  Each person is unique, but over time you will notice certain patterns emerge.  For example, people in powerful positions tend to be submissive in their sex lives because they need somewhere they can be vulnerable and have someone else take charge and make decisions.

Domina, Domme, Dom, Dominatrix, Dominant.  These words seem interchangeable but carry with them subtlties.  A Dominant is a person in a social or sexual situation that is in the position of power.  A Dominatrix is typically a female that practices BDSM for an income.  A Dominatrix may or may not enjoy BDSM in her own life.  A Domme is a female Dominant, a Dom, a male Dominant.  A Domina (which I identify as), is a female that practices BDSM both professionally and in her private life.  I’m sure you also notice that the D is capitalized.  In D/s, BDSM conversations it is typical to have the Dominant person indentified as being the person in power by capitalizing the D or the letter(s) of their name.  The submissive shows their position by referring to themselves in lower case or using language that places them as being the person that does not make decisions or holds any power within the D/s relationship.  Interestingly enough, the submissive holds a great deal of power within the D/s relationship.  I find that the submissive is the medium in which I express my sexuality.  The D/s dynamic is a beautiful and fulfilling when the chemistry is right between two individuals. 

"Career Call"-article for loyola university's LGBTIQ publication, part 1 by Claudia Typhoon

Becoming a professional Dominant is a pretty straightforward path.  For me it certainly was, which I take it to mean it was meant to be.  I had been interested in BDSM since I found out about it at 15.  Once I had moved to NYC, becoming a professional Dominatrix seemed to be something more attainable than the South I was raised in.

One day while looking for jobs on Craigslist I found an ad for women to work at a dungeon in Manhattan, no experience necessary.   I called and set up an appointment for a few days later.  The large and unfriendly woman asked me a series of questions; “what’s your level of experience, knowledge, interest in BDSM?”  BDSM meaning Bondage, Domination, Sado-Masochism.  She seemed to be testing me, watching my body language as she informed me that I had to be comfortable with bodily fluids and touching the assholes and such of strange men.  Later this would equate to a handshake instead of an eye-brow raising comment.  When she felt satisfied that I do not scare easily, she set up my schedule with me.  I would work at least 3, 8 hour shifts per week.  No guarantee of income, but $80 per session with potential for tips outside of that.  The dungeon charged $220 per session, (industry standard is currently $250 in NYC), the dungeon kept the other $140.  Since I had two other jobs at the time, I wasn’t worried about making money.

Dominant women, much like typical men in positions of power, are competitive and have erect egos that tend to bump into others and become irate when others do not move from their path.  I chose to remain quiet and out of the way my first few weeks, asking questions of the other women I felt may actually give me information instead of angry blast of insults.

My first session was a smoking session.  Something I enjoy, but my first was a departure from any subsequent ones I would have.  This was a forced inhalation smoking session.  The gentleman (who was a very lovely man) had an apparatus that was strapped to his face.  There was a tube that led to his mouth and nose.  He could only take in air through this hose.  I smoke cloves occasionally, but I loathe cigarettes. I figured I could pull the cigarette smoke into my cheeks and blow it into the tube without inhaling much smoke.  It made my nose run terribly, which I blew into my hand and smeared on his thighs. He thought that action wonderful.  We both laughed and had a great time.  I felt I had a great session, but when I got home later, I had an asthma attack like no other.  I couldn’t take in air and my roommates called the EMTs to give me oxygen.  This reinforced my hatred of cigarettes; but hooked me on becoming a Dominatrix.  For the next few years I would work professionally both in and out of a dungeon setting as a Domme.  I find my occupation to be a very satisfying one. Each new interaction, each new session I learn more about sexuality, myself, and how no one has “normal sex.”

"Queering Claudia Typhoon"-article for loyola university's LGBTQ publication by Claudia Typhoon

I don’t recall a defining moment in time in which I learned the term queer, but I do remember asking the person who self-identified as such what it meant.  They explained how they felt themselves to be and what queer meant to them nonchalantly and it just clicked for me.  I define myself as being attracted to multiple gender and sexual identities.

I find that the more I learn about sexuality, the less I can be defined by my own proclivities. Complex sexual identities are conversations, not short answers.  Most people don’t “have time” to learn and accept the identities of others.  Even worse, condemn it because it doesn't fit into their current sexual context.  I’ve found that the most backlash I’ve received are from individuals that noticeably have sexual interest that come under criticism of others; such as a “hot wife/cuckholdress” or homosexual individuals that tell me that I am selfish for not selecting just one gender to be attracted to, “just pick one already.”  It’s strange to me that those that come from non-linear sexualities would condemn me for having a non-linear sexuality myself.

I identify as queer because it makes the most sense based upon my current schema.  As I evolve and learn more I may identify as something else or choose not to identify at all. I am LGBTQ and an ally.  I have been best friends with Curtis for 15 years and we have grown and supported the evolution of our respective sexualities over the years.  I support the growth and exploration of every individual, as long as it remains safe, sane, and consensual.

The evolution of my sexuality is one of a long conscious of its being.  When I first became attracted to a particular sex I found that the curvaceous women in my parent’s Playboys were what did it for me.  When I started to masturbate I thought of jungle cats mounting me as they would with any mate—teeth, claws, and blood included.  I told my mother I was bisexual when I was 14.  She looked scared and after a pause said that as long as I marry a man and give her grandchildren, it did not matter what I was.  This angered me.  When I was about 15 or 16 I learned of the concept of BDSM. Unbeknownst to be, I had been engaging in BDSM lifestyle activities since I was 5, which I explored mostly with men.  When I moved to NYC I learned the term queer and became a Domina.  I continue to explore my own sexuality and to educate others.  I find that “normal sex” rarely happens; in my own life and of those around me.  The perpetuation of people having puritan sexual relations with each other is a farce, especially with those that are the first to condemn the sexuality of others. 

My penis theory by Claudia Typhoon

now, in stating this theory, I know that there are always exceptions to the rule. I know because I've met them. but I find that more often than not, men that have smaller penises tend to go one of a few ways; they either focus on pleasing a woman in whatever way possible by means of oral sex or they submit to a Dominant & want to be humiliated for their penis size. most within this category are of the mindset that their small member will never please a woman via penetration so they offer themselves up to the chopping block so the speak to be used by whatever whim their Dominant chooses for them. this is a focus on mental satisfaction rather than physical and I find its pursuit interesting. most people don't realize that your stimulation and sexual appetites dwell within your brain grapes; but that is a different blog. this group of males I don't find nearly as interesting as the other, the male in power.

this is what i find to be more common, kink or no. men that are tall and well built naturally have very calm and sweet dispositions. due to their opposing size and "ideal" masculine form they do not need to assert their "maleness", nor their dominance. I'm sure you have heard of a Napoleon complex, right? more often than not, i find that shorter men feel they need to assert themselves and can be very pushy to compensate for their lack in vertical measurements. same can be said for penis size. men that are endowed typically have more relaxed dispositions than their smaller counterparts. they also are less likely to pursue positions of power. why is that? ultimately we are all competing for mates. a man that is ideal physically will not have to work as hard to achieve mates, think: athletes. when a man has a sizable cock, he typically is satisfied with a job/career that does not put him in a position of power because he doesn't need that extra help to find an ideal mate. think of powerful and successful men, now think about their spouses. often beautiful and accomplished women, correct? (at least beautiful, haha!) what drove those men to achieve? a great many things, but i assure you that cock size had something to do with it. most of the clients i see are average if not more than likely below average. i want you to keep in mind that the average size of an American melanin-challenged individual is at 5.5 inches in length. when we think of a large penis we think of a 8-10" piece of man-meat. chew on that size difference. notice i haven't even mentioned girth. the enlarged clitorises of the men that I see as submissive clients typically are lawyers, high-stakes finance, presidents, vice-presidents, CEO's of companies; think executives. these men achieve because they need to get the best mates over their endowed brethren. it levels the playing field. if you think I'm off on my assumption, ladies (and those that like penis, regardless of your sexual identity), i want you to reflect on your sexual partners; their occupations and relate it to their cock size. also consider how much you were willing to put up with for a cock you enjoyed over one that fell short. then let me know if you agree. I think you will find that your primal mind makes more choices than you are conscious of.

i know that my observation makes it sound like larger penis size is better. i know women that do prefer a average or even below average sized cock. also, the most sensitive part of a woman's vagina is the first two inches and the edge upon entry. so many woman are very satisfied with average-sized cocks. so if you know how to use it, you will be just fine.

Starter Prose by Claudia Typhoon

I see nothing but sounds. I eat. eat. eat. touch colors stroking sadness & mysticism. I’m bound in cake & nylon & sadness prevails over whispers of compassion as I gain the fortitude of an unkempt dragon. whispers. answers whispers. soft glows pulse warm from around the corner in which I lie. steal. stole. past tense, future prose. anything goes in this room in which I surrender. pause given at yellow, red halts the barrage of sexual creativity. I’m lost and found here, so close to the ground. my face is so intimate to the cool wood floor. the echos of momentum lasting years or more. such clean & exacting filth. let it ride, let glide.  Thrust in side & touch me deeply as I’m sleepy & leave cause against my thigh. Publicly naked & fully clothed.